Upon marriage, society views the individual as an adult. I remember feeling "judged" by people in my community as "less than an adult" or as a "second class adult" before I got married, and I was in my thirties.
" I asked a friend who had recently broached the exclusivity threshold with his consistent hookup.Social approval should not be a reason to get married.And if divorce becomes necessary, exhaust every avenue to save the marriage before uttering that word to your spouse. For some reason, society forgets that both decisions require personal strength and resolve. For instance, during conversation, he might say "I like to do XYZ with my girlfriend..the girl I'm dating..."In the big scheme of things, it's not a big deal - but I am curious. No reason to bring it up if things are going well and there isn't a concern that he's seeing other people anyways. Or did he say or do something to make you think he isn't as serious as you are?Before I ask him his thoughts, I am looking for opinions on whether you guys make this distinction yourselves. Holy crap that's a whole lot of mess tied up with the definition of labels. I've had the discussion many times but to be honest I don't think I've ever actually used the term "mutually exclusive" outside of these message boards. Talk things out with him I treat those as the same thing..