Many Christians choose to save sex until marriage due to religious and moral beliefs.
This can be hard, but it also sets the stage for greater intimacy in the long run.
This issue shapes our young people, friends, and family more than we could ever imagine. “Let’s just sit back and see what happens” might work in certain scenarios, but Christian dating isn’t one of them. I hope and pray these words spark conversations in your ministries, relationships, and homes. If you need to take a minute to let that sink in, I will be here when you get back… Here’s the deal: marriage isn’t a divine lottery where every person has one winning ticket. Hopefully one will end up as my spouse.” Not a good idea. So, the default for years is to leave as soon as a flaw arises. This requires discipline, restraint, and abstinence from activities that don’t promote holiness. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. ____________________ I hope this discussion continues. I pray parents, church leaders, friends, and family begin to spark conversations about God’s design for dating.
Most importantly, guidelines and principles for dating will transform lives and shape eternities. The brokenness you see in yourself and the brokenness you experience from your spouse point both of you to the only perfect one, God. When you pull the trigger, these balls spread over a large range, increasing the chance you hit the target.
The same concept applies to a dating or courting relationship.
Sitting together cuddled up in a dark room on a comfy couch, alone, for hours on end, is placing you both in temptation’s way.
Then you open your windows, garage door, front door, back door, doggy door, and the skylight on the roof.
I also believe that this recommendation applies with equal force to single men and women in college.I've arrived at this conclusion by thinking through a number of biblical principles.One of our bedrock governing principles in biblical dating — and in how we treat our brothers and sisters in Christ generally — is not to "defraud" our single brothers and sisters by implying a greater level of commitment between us and them than actually exists (see 1 Thessalonians 4:6).If we act like we're married before we've made that commitment, we're defrauding (and sinning).I don't know whether you've noticed this, but people involved in a dating relationship tend to get to know each other better over the course of that relationship.