If you've fought the battle of sexual purity for any length of time, you know that it is far more complex than simply abstaining from having sex.Sexual purity may be expressed by what you do with your body, but it is ultimately rooted in your mind, your heart and your soul.However, I am freaking out over the fact that he has been with someone else. We have talked about this a couple of times during the past week, but we live 3,000 miles apart, and it's easy for me to pretend I don't know what happened.I understand that he is forgiven and that this sin is no different from any other sin, but I feel betrayed by something he did before we even knew each other. Not surprising given the high rates of self-reported pre-marital sexual activity.If you have any advice I would really love to hear it! Whatever the degree of past sexual sin, learning that your beloved once treated someone else as intimately as you want to be treated — and this outside the bounds of marriage — is a blow.Tragically, it's become quite common due to all the relational shrapnel in our culture.They'll likely hear more from their peers and try to make sense of it all themselves.
They are living bound by lies and making choices out of confusion.Talking with your kids about sex can be uncomfortable, but it's not something you can afford to neglect.Yes, they can pick up pieces of information during sex-ed class at school or during a church youth pastor's talk on abstinence.You can tell Christian thinking on the topic has gone downhill when we go from the 1980s message that says virginity is important and to strive for it, to the 2010 and onwards attack – by Christians – that says virginity is no big deal, so don’t beat yourself up when you have pre-marital sex.Sometimes, Christians re-examining a view, teaching, or how they present it, can be a good thing, but I wonder about things when they start trying to downplay a standard that is taught in the Bible (ie, virginity and celibacy).