No one has the time to “check in” constantly with someone they’re “just” dating.This form of contact is perfect for abusers to “check in” with you to see what you are up to, to make sure that you are suitably “hooked” to their attention, and is a form of “idealization” which will place you on a pedestal that at first, seems irresistible.
Unlike dating partners who are simply excited to see you again and express their interest with polite enthusiasm, toxic partners will get considerably upset if you choose not to respond to them right away or if you resist their idealization by giving yourself necessary space.
When he was 16, he was high on ecstasy and trying to complete a paper for high school when his nephew was bugging him.
He made him sit in a chair and tied his hands but he says he did not molest or sexually abuse him.
Sometimes I feel that I can believe what he tells me.
He owns up to the abuse, and also says that the drugs was not an excuse for what he did.