"I think I was kind of clueless and oblivious," admits Melcher, who spent his early 20s lingering in the friend zone.
"Women wanted the bad boys." Everyone probably knows a Mr. He's the guy who patiently listens to a girl complain without interrupting her.
Look for the tricks that are secret and special to just the two of you — that's how you know it's the real deal.Dating people in other boroughs qualifies as a long-distance relationship. If it helps, once we really like one of you, the other four are history within an hour. "He wants to go to Neil's on Third," we will tell our friends. He's really serious about you," they will say if it's a great bar, and, "Ugh, maybe you should just cancel," they will say if it's a bad one. There are certain parts of town we can't even go near because they remind us of our exes. So telling me you'll meet me "around 9" will result in us meeting up "around never."10. Especially if you don't make reservations near my office and want me to meet you there at 7. This city is so full of places to fall in love with and things to be excited about and we want to do all of it.If you live in the Bronx and I don't, you are not my soul mate. And if you are, I'm sorry but that commute is no fucking joke and I simply cannot. One group text is sent and we're all yours (JK, JK). Our city is pretty compact, so even though it might sound nuts to be like, "I can't go to the East Village," that's actually like saying, "I don't love going near Exit 19B" on the highway in most other cities, so it's pretty reasonable. We're like that Eminem song: You only get one shot. We live in a city of go-getters and we most likely are one ourselves, so you better be able to make a plan. It'll easily take me 30 to 45 minutes to get there, and that's if all the trains haven't mysteriously shut down because of construction no one believes will actually ever fix anything, but that's a whole other thing. Which means we probably don't want to just "come over and hang out" for the majority of our first few dates.13. Stop, think, and ask yourself: Are you dating a jerk? You allow this person to sleep over every night, almost pretending to yourself you're already living together. Or maybe that wedding she excitedly invited you to as a date suddenly ceases to exist.This is the one who falls in love with you immediately ("immediately" being somewhere in the range of two to four weeks). Just a few days and abrupt emails later, all modes of communication are down, and a happenstance meeting on the street leaves you with nothing but a cold shoulder.