My answer to all three: "Nope — because we followed the rules." The truth is, office romances are tricky and generally not recommended. " Those are questions I'm frequently asked when I tell people the story of my office romance.Once I disentangled my feelings about my relationships from my feelings about my own work and career, I was more confident and could make clearer choices in both areas of my life.” I respect the point she makes, but I tend to think of the choice to date a co-worker as one made on a case-by-case basis depending on circumstances, career field (who would celebs date if they didn’t date each other?) and personal readiness, not by a moral imperative. When I was in college I worked at a nightclub — partially because I needed the cash and partially because I was dating a guy who also worked there. Well, because he was awful and I was 19 and didn’t know any better.Still, I wouldn’t use this as an example that dating a co-worker is . I haven’t dated a co-worker since then (only for lack of opportunity), but I’ve dated people I’ve met through work.Like Friedman, I never suffered any personal disasters because of it, just a few moments of personal anxiety that I recovered from. Quick backstory: We didn't meet on the job — we were dating for almost four years before we started working together (which, by the way, wasn't planned … But for about 11 months, we sat three cubes apart from one another and kept our relationship under wraps. If you decide it My situation was unique because we were already a couple before we started working together — but generally that isn't the case, and Lynn Taylor, a national workplace expert and the author of "Tame Your Terrible Office Tyrant: How to Manage Childish Boss Behavior and Thrive in Your Job," suggests you try being friends inside and outside the office before you make any moves. But they happen all the time, and when they do, there are three possible outcomes: The relationship turns sour and your reputation and career take a beating; it ends, but you're both mature and cordial and don't let the breakup affect your work; or A survey by Career Builder last year revealed that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a coworker, and almost one-third of office relationships result in marriage. We got married in October.) It's up to you to figure out whether pursuing an office relationship is worth the possible consequences, good and bad.
I didn’t suffer any professional disasters, but I did have to deal with a lot of personal anxieties I might not have experienced otherwise…I don’t think it’s a total coincidence that I’ve been most professionally successful in the years since I instituted my ‘no journo’ dating rule.At the end of the day, you want someone who is just as interesting around a conference room table as they are in a dimly lit dive bar.Instead of having 15 minutes to get to know someone over a cocktail, you can take your time.If company policy strictly prohibits office romances, well, you need to decide whether or not the relationship is worth it.If you just want a fling, you’re better off getting it elsewhere.