Yes, anecdotes of hair-raising internet dates have become dinner-party staples - you know, like "he turned up wearing a toolbelt and immediately burst into tears" - and many were collected in a book published earlier this year. The plunge in self-esteem when your ideal partner remains as elusive as a taxi on New Year's Eve?
A quick disclosure: I have a couple of dating profiles online. But this isn't therapy masquerading as a self-pitying article by some bloke in his late-30s - well, not much, anyway.
American-based site e Harmony likes to stress how many members get married as a result of being matched via the service (236 every day, according to data gathered in the US in 2008.) did a survey last year indicating that an impressive 58,500 people found a partner on the site over a 12-month period - and they still offer a six-month guarantee of "finding love", albeit underlined (understandably) by a 500-word list of conditions. When Britain's Time Out magazine recently ran a cover story offering free online dating for every reader, it was dangling a huge metaphorical carrot. But you rarely hear from those who, having failed to find a partner online, back away from the computer shaking their heads at the way the process distorts social conventions and leaves you slightly shell-shocked.
Those 58,500 lucky members of were vastly outnumbered by the 286,000 unlucky ones.
I would like to point out that there are lots of venues for reporting crimes of this nature; a public forum such as Reddit **is not** one of these venues.
Without discussing the legal & forensics aspects of the validity of such a claim, I would like to remind you that posting personal information is against Reddit's TOS.Some more things that remain the same: I won't answer. I won't accept voice or video calls unless I'm expecting them. And if you need to know where I am for some reason, ask me to add you to one of the circles I share my location with on Google . I have a Facebook account, but I only ever use it for work.I'll let it go to voicemail, and NEVER listen to the message. If you want to phone me, here's what you do: Don't. You'll either need an appointment (set up via email or IM), or the situation must make the purpose of your call obvious (like I'm supposed to meet you somewhere, but you can't find me, or something). I won't post anything personal there, or anything that doesn't at least indirectly relate to one of my businesses or organisations. The rest of the time it'll be answered by one of my staff, not by me. I have several email addresses, none of which are hard to find. If you want to get in touch with me, pick your favourite email address of mine and send it a message. It may be immediately, or it may be a few days later. I use two IM networks: Google Hangouts and Facebook Messenger. When it comes to Hangouts, I rely on you guys to respect my boundaries: Try not to send me work-related stuff on my days off. Unless your message is about work, I won't respond to it. I'll get your message on my watch, and I'll respond almost immediately (unless I'm napping or raiding or something).